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Old 22.04.2020, 17:05
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Death is part of life. If your daughter's favourite soft toy goes missing, sure, replace it. But a living being? Give her time to grieve.
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Old 22.04.2020, 18:06
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Sounds like you're considering a kitten like a toy, easily replaceable. Sorry, but it's not. As NotAllThere said, give her time to grieve; it's a fact of life she's going to have to get used to sooner or later. Rushing to replace a beloved pet isn't necessarily the best way forward for all of you.
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Old 22.04.2020, 18:30
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Re: Desperately looking to adopt kitten/kittens

OP, I'm sorry to hear about your cat.

I'm going to buck the trend and say we should not judge the OP so harshly. Pets are a huge part of our lives, and while we do need to grieve when we lose one, it doesn't mean that getting a new pet is always a "replacement". It's opening our hearts and our homes to a new family member. Maybe the daughter has requested another cat, not the parent seeking it. We don't know enough to be so judgmental, imo.

OP says the daughter is an only child, so odds are the cat was basically her best friend. She is going to miss that companionship. New kittens will never replace that bond, but having the companionship can help heal the wounds of the loss of the old pet.
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Old 22.04.2020, 18:41
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OP, I'm sorry to hear about your cat.

I'm going to buck the trend and say we should not judge the OP so harshly. Pets are a huge part of our lives, and while we do need to grieve when we lose one, it doesn't mean that getting a new pet is always a "replacement". It's opening our hearts and our homes to a new family member. Maybe the daughter has requested another cat, not the parent seeking it. We don't know enough to be so judgmental, imo.

OP says the daughter is an only child, so odds are the cat was basically her best friend. She is going to miss that companionship. New kittens will never replace that bond, but having the companionship can help heal the wounds of the loss of the old pet.

I agree with 3Wishes on this. We also don't know how old the little girl is or anything about her beyond her being distraught. As a mother, I completely understand OP's desire in wanting to soothe her child's pain and we certainly shouldn't judge or assume she is treating a kitten as an easily replaceable toy.

My only word of caution would be if it is a little too soon and the child rejects the kitten because it isn't her old much loved pet. But that would depend on the age of the child and her mother is the best person to be able to decide that not strangers on a forum She didn't post for people to be judgemental but for help.
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Death is part of life. If your daughter's favourite soft toy goes missing, sure, replace it. But a living being? Give her time to grieve.
I agree with you. Definitely grieving time is given.... I don't expect to adapt today.
Our place is a cat place and full of cat spots and toys.... I spoke with a specialist and suggested not to remove them and adapt soon a new family member. Nothing will replace our loss and being a child with no siblings and locked inside makes everything harder.
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Sounds like you're considering a kitten like a toy, easily replaceable. Sorry, but it's not. As NotAllThere said, give her time to grieve; it's a fact of life she's going to have to get used to sooner or later. Rushing to replace a beloved pet isn't necessarily the best way forward for all of you.
Thank you for your input but trust me I know very well that a cat is not a toy.
But each child has different needs and I know what is better for my situation.
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Old 22.04.2020, 19:38
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OP, I'm sorry to hear about your cat.

I'm going to buck the trend and say we should not judge the OP so harshly.
I wasn't aware anyone was being harsh. Simply suggesting that time is needed, and warning the OP not to treat a living being as a commoditiy, which he/she seems to have a grasp upon.

My advice is, leave it about six months. I am not an "expert". Just 45 years of dealing with kids and pet deaths.
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Thank you for your input but trust me I know very well that a cat is not a toy.
But each child has different needs and I know what is better for my situation.
My advice -don't buy from a farmer.
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My advice -don't buy from a farmer.
Actually that's the advice I was given; to go around farms and ask.
Can you please tell me why?
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Actually that's the advice I was given; to go around farms and ask.
Can you please tell me why?
Well I once got a kitten from a farmer. It was so wild and aggressive that I had to take him back. But I heard somewhere that farm cats and kittens can be in general quite wild. Of course there are exceptions.
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Funny. I remember getting advice that farm cats make good pets. No idea why. Maybe it depends on the age they get taken.
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Funny. I remember getting advice that farm cats make good pets. No idea why. Maybe it depends on the age they get taken.
yes. Probably best to get it as young as possible
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We’ve had lots of farm cats and never had a problem with any of them.
Farmers don’t generally sell them, they’re very happy to give them away.
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although rescues and vets, etc, are really encouraging farmers to NOT give them away- to avoid them being adopted by people who regard animals as toys to be got rid when you have 'outgrown' them.- or to only give them away to people who are known to them or have relevant local references.

You do realise what will happen to a kitten returned at later stage to farmer, don't you?

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I can't believe that would ever happen, TBH.
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Funny. I remember getting advice that farm cats make good pets. No idea why. Maybe it depends on the age they get taken.
Well the farm cat I got thought my back was something like a tree to scratch on. And he took a nice bite in my hand. Had to go to the doctor for tetanus shots! In CH the farmers eat the cats or they dont feed them so that they hunt for mice!! Or they simply drown the unwanted ones!!
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I can't believe that would ever happen, TBH.
It shouldn't happen, but too often does.

https://www.20min.ch/schweiz/news/st...erfen-21478946

By the bye, the article references the group NetAp. This is a Tierschutz organization whose mission is to castrate feral cats, and offers (often gratis) castration of farm cats as well, to try to prevent the estimated 100K killed yearly because they are 'surplus to requirements'. A group worthy of support.


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As to the OP:

I am very sorry to hear about the loss of your cat. It's the heartbreaking part of sharing our lives with our furry friends - all the more difficult for a child who is too young to fully understand.

There is no right or wrong way to grieve - we all do what we need to, on our own individual timelines.

And I have always said: The best tribute I can pay to the beloved critter I have just lost is to open my heart to another in need.

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While most Tierheim are closed to visitors now, some are still proceeding with adoptions. Take a look at Tieronline, linked by EdwinNL above.

If there is a cat who tugs at your heartstrings, contact the organization. They could get the ball rolling with the assessment process and if all goes well might be able to arrange a meeting within safety and social distancing guidelines. The process might take longer than usual, however, in order to adhere to those guidelines.

A word to the wise, however:

A concern some groups have at the moment is that the number of inquiries are far higher than usual as people are looking to adopt now, suddenly feeling the need for animal companionship during this time of social isolation. However, as the discussion continues we have seen that many of those inquiring have perhaps not fully thought through caring for the animal once we all go back to our normal busy lives.

So knowing there is this concern, when you approach a Tierheim or other rescue group it would be a good idea to address this upfront. Make sure that your application stresses 'A pet is for life, not just Coronavirus lockdown'.

Wishing you all the best in your search for a new furry friend - and again, I am sorry for your loss.
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Well the farm cat I got thought my back was something like a tree to scratch on. And he took a nice bite in my hand.
Sure - but isn't that the way most people react towards you?
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