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Old 24.05.2012, 22:26
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Re: 18 yr old boy missing from St Legier - after walking out of school

my thought are with you, either he will be found soon or better yet he will make the right choice and go back home where he is obviously much loved and missed.

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Old 24.05.2012, 23:32
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Guys,

This is a friend of my eldest child, yesterday he left school in St legier at 8-30am and has not been seen since.

We are worried for his health - if anyone sees him please do inform the police

Thank you

http://www.24heures.ch/vaud-regions/...story/15452845

I am sure that you and his parents will be told about two or three "worst-case-scenarios", but I would not take the pessimist approach. However, when reading ""fragile psychologiquement"" I wonder whether people have given a lose look to his room at home. Boys at age 18 tend to be bored, angry and frustrated (Sturm- und Drang-Periode) which is perfectly normal. But things in his room might give clues of whether he wants to join the Foreign Legion, get out into the world, go to his favourite uncle, etc.

He looks intelligent, and so of course will manage to avoid special controls at borders and major rail stations. At age 18, you lack experience but knowledge-wise and in regard to your brains you are "adult" in most respects. I suppose that he at least has an Identity Card and possibly even a passport.

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Re: 18 yr old boy missing from St Legier - after walking out of school

Hello, I was a student from Haut Lac, graduation 2007, I currently live in Lausanne and will go for a big search in town tomorrow. I'm going to go to the places I used to go when i was a teen listening to music and hanging out in lausanne, fnac, music shops, skate parks, etc.. I sincerely will do the best I can on my side, I send you all my support, and can only wish you that you will find him. Good luck and stay strong
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Re: 18 yr old boy missing from St Legier - after walking out of school

Really terrible thing, I wish I could help somehow.

Don't know if this is of any importance and if it will be the nature of your son, where I live in Pully just on the opposite street there is an "occupied house" for few months now, if I understand right it's sort of a place that these squatters settled in and everybody is welcome to join or pass by inside to have a drink...They have pirate flags and different banners everyday inviting people for apero etc...

This house is 15 minutes walk from Lausanne Gare, you mentioned your son had gone from Lausanne to Vevey, I don't know if this could be a place where he could have stayed?

Maybe also worth to check other friends that might have helped him for the last days, maybe not classmates, but perhaps online friends if he played games in multi player online?

If you wish I could go over there to this house and ask the guys, if you think it's possible that he visited places like this.

Hoping for a quick resolution for you and your family.
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Re: 18 yr old boy missing from St Legier - after walking out of school

Hey Darlene, it's your brother, I'm sorry that you have to go through this, but it looks like all of the people in your area are helping out, I appreciate all of the constant updates for I'm in St. Louis Missouri, 7 hours behind all of you.---I love you Dar and I hope and pray that he will return soon.
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I am sure that you and his parents will be told about two or three "worst-case-scenarios", but I would not take the pessimist approach. However, when reading ""fragile psychologiquement"" I wonder whether people have given a lose look to his room at home. Boys at age 18 tend to be bored, angry and frustrated (Sturm- und Drang-Periode) which is perfectly normal. But things in his room might give clues of whether he wants to join the Foreign Legion, get out into the world, go to his favourite uncle, etc.

He looks intelligent, and so of course will manage to avoid special controls at borders and major rail stations. At age 18, you lack experience but knowledge-wise and in regard to your brains you are "adult" in most respects. I suppose that he at least has an Identity Card and possibly even a passport.

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Thank you for your suggestions and concern. His room was searched by police, we went through it as well. There was nothing different or unusual/surprising there. The 'fragile psychologiquement' is a euphemistic way of saying that he left a suicide note. This was why we were so worried initially. We are of course still worried now, but are more optimistic that he is not intending to harm himself.

He did not take any passports with him but he does have a Swiss id card and some train abonnements, including a voie 7.

We do not believe that he is traveling outside of the region, he was spotted multiple times (confirmed) locally in Vevey yesterday. There is an unconfirmed spotting today in Vevey, we will try to verify that independently tomorrow morning. Plus, fortunately for us, he hates to travel.

Although we haven't categorically ruled out any scenarios, we believe that he is still in the area Vevey/Lausanne. We hope that he will reach out to someone, us, a friend, or that we will be able to find him.
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Hey Darlene, it's your brother, I'm sorry that you have to go through this, but it looks like all of the people in your area are helping out, I appreciate all of the constant updates for I'm in St. Louis Missouri, 7 hours behind all of you.---I love you Dar and I hope and pray that he will return soon.
Thanks Sid for all of you guys' support, it means a lot to us.
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Maybe also worth to check other friends that might have helped him for the last days, maybe not classmates, but perhaps online friends if he played games in multi player online?

If you wish I could go over there to this house and ask the guys, if you think it's possible that he visited places like this.

Hoping for a quick resolution for you and your family.
We have tried checking into the possibility of him getting help from acquaintances, etc, it looks like this is not happening.

I think it is unlikely that he would have gone to that particular house, but I would greatly appreciate you checking it out if it is not a lot of trouble for you. We have also been trying to look into possibilities like this but either closer to Vevey or in Lausanne.

Thanks again so much.
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Old 25.05.2012, 01:18
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Re: 18 yr old boy missing from St Legier - after walking out of school

I am so sorry to read of what you and your family are going through darleneg.

I just wanted to let you know that today I was included on a large group email asking for people to keep a look out for your son, which of course I am doing. I have forwarded the email to everyone I know that lives in the Vevey/Lausanne area.

More people than you even know are thinking about your boy and looking for him. Hopefully he will be back home with you soon.
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Re: 18 yr old boy missing from St Legier - after walking out of school

Very sorry to hear what has happened.

You may try to remember what dreams your son has had in the past few years. Was he fascinated by the Foreign Legion ? Was he fascinated by seaports (Seaport of Marseille for example) ? Was he fascinated by a particular country ? Was he particularily good in the field of some particular music ? In what country/countries does he have relatives he particularily likes ?

Whatever, all my best wishes for all your family !

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Thank you for your suggestions and concern. His room was searched by police, we went through it as well. There was nothing different or unusual/surprising there. The 'fragile psychologiquement' is a euphemistic way of saying that he left a suicide note. This was why we were so worried initially. We are of course still worried now, but are more optimistic that he is not intending to harm himself.

He did not take any passports with him but he does have a Swiss id card and some train abonnements, including a voie 7.

We do not believe that he is traveling outside of the region, he was spotted multiple times (confirmed) locally in Vevey yesterday. There is an unconfirmed spotting today in Vevey, we will try to verify that independently tomorrow morning. Plus, fortunately for us, he hates to travel.

Although we haven't categorically ruled out any scenarios, we believe that he is still in the area Vevey/Lausanne. We hope that he will reach out to someone, us, a friend, or that we will be able to find him.
All this then rather shows that he possibly simply was fed up with everything. Not sensational really, but definitely a matter for concern and potentially dangerous.

Suicide ? I remember well that my friends and me at that age frequently thought about whether life made any sense and what the best way ..... would be, so that our parents would have sent us all to the psychiatrist. But, to the good luck of all, none of us did do something like it.

Does not like to travel ? Does that include trvelling by ship ? For instance to places like Evan ?

All the best !
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Re: 18 yr old boy missing from St Legier - after walking out of school

I'm not a parent but I have fostered and been a teacher in the past. I totally realise the parent(s) are anxious but my experience of this sort of thing is that the young man is essentially behaving like a lot of us do, or did, and often when much younger than 18.

When I think what I put my parents through.... I ran away from home several times between 14 and 17, twice to another country and once to another continent -- and I had almost no money. Eventually I got to 19 and escaped properly to University, and at that age no one could legally drag me back. (And here's the funny thing -- I had lovely parents and two very nice sisters. No abuse or psychological torture - I just wanted adventures and to get away from the nest).

Aneurin has been seen several times in the immediate area and has quite a chunk of cash on him. I absolutely do not want to sound complacent but there is a strong statistical likelihood that he will be absolutely fine, and will return when he starts to miss a few home comforts.

The note creates extra worry, of course, but often it's what teenagers do to make us feel guilty. A lot of us went through this phase and nearly all come out not just OK but perhaps even stronger than those who never rebelled.

I'm not religious so I won't say I'm praying, but I am hoping -- and I do think this story will have a happy ending.
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All this then rather shows that he possibly simply was fed up with everything. Not sensational really, but definitely a matter for concern and potentially dangerous.

Suicide ? I remember well that my friends and me at that age frequently thought about whether life made any sense and what the best way ..... would be, so that our parents would have sent us all to the psychiatrist. But, to the good luck of all, none of us did do something like it.
Cross-posts but I think we have a similar perspective.
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Re: 18 yr old boy missing from St Legier - after walking out of school

Does he have any hobbies? or is he a football fan or another sport? probably already doing so but it could help to target places that would cater to what he likes to do - bars that play the games on tv type of thing...
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Re: 18 yr old boy missing from St Legier - after walking out of school

Hello,
I'm trying to understand his key needs : eat, sleep, have a shower. I've very good connections with people at Accor (hotels), even if he would rather go to a youth hostel, they are also 1* or 2* hotels close to rail stations - I can get this connection and have the hotel network informed. What do you think ?
Regarding to Evian, that could be an alternative (quick travel), with these nices days. I have also friends from there : an information at least at the heaven and few restaurants arounds the heaven. Does this make sense ?
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Re: 18 yr old boy missing from St Legier - after walking out of school

It's really hard to find words, I'm so sorry for you darleneg.
I too have a teenage son (a little younger than yours), I feel for you.

Children often speak and share with their peers, does he have facebook ?

I agree with TheSpouse about the Flon and the Riponne. I'd add that the McDonald's in front of the Lausanne train station, is also a place kids hang around.
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Dear Darleneg,

14 hours ago your son becomes friends with de..... on Facebok

I am not computer savvy, but perhaps the police could trace the IP address.

I could also be totally wrong and it could be that De was the one who accepted to be a "friends" from a request that was sent a while ago.

Praying for the safe return of your son.
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Re: 18 yr old boy missing from St Legier - after walking out of school

hi there,

i live in the lausanne area - so i'll keep an eye. could you give a better description, i was stopped by a boy similar looking in lausanne yesterday at a metro bessierres with a black shirt on and denims with a backpack, asking for a light, his height was about 1,7 m but was in a bit of a rush, so i could be wrong... if i do pass there again i will keep a look out.

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Am I the only one who think this is about a 18 year old dude who don't want to be found (for a while at least) ?
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Re: 18 yr old boy missing from St Legier - after walking out of school

What an incredibly insensitive thing to say. You've obviously never had someone you love take off out of the blue. I have, and it was a close friend, not my son. I can only imagine how difficult this is for his mother, and your comment really is idiotic.
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